Living single has me looking to my friend's relationships for validation that love is still possible. This is a fantastic time for my circle.

The teacher and the chef are maintaining a stable commited relationship on separate coasts.

The dancer and the singer have decided that love ain't all roses and the obstacles reinforce the need to be honest about what they want. And ultimately they want to be together.

The DJ and the writer discovered that communcation causes issues to be non issues.

And here I sit feeling truly blessed to be able to witness this amazing thing first hand. Usually being the single friend evokes emotions of loneliness and self doubt. But not this time. They have added a new reason for the sun in my world to shine brighter. If the man who is crazy enough to fall in love with me shows up, he better be ready. My standard of love has been raised to epic levels and I have heightened expectations of what it takes to make things work.

The song in my heart now is Phyllis Hyman's I Refuse to Be Lonely.


I can't hold you
Like I want to
Can't hold you to the promises you make
You won't be here tonight
Or any other night
It would be a lie to say I'm not afraid
But to be afraid is something
That I've always been
The difference is this time I'm not giving in

Yes I am alone
Yes I'm on my own
But for the first time in my life
I'm gonna carry on
Yes, I'm gonna ache
But I will not break
Some things I can choose
And baby I refuse
To be lonely
To be lonely

I can't change you
I can't blame you
And this time I'm not even gonna try
You do what you have to do
I'll do the same thing too
You've got a right to say good-bye
But I've got a right to take care of myself
I realize that I come first before anyone else

Yes, I am alone
Yes, I'm on my own
But for the time in my life
I'm gonna carry on
Yes, I'm gonna ache
But I will not break
Some things I can choose
and baby I refuse
to be lonely

Lonely is a place I used to be
But I'm closing that door
I won't live there anymore

Yes, I am alone
Yes, I'm on my own
But for the first time in my life
I'm gonna carry on
Yes, I'm gonna ache
But I will not break
Some things I can choose
And baby I refuse
To be lonely
To be lonely
To be lonely

Nite.

DJ